Motherhood changes everything. Your body, your time, your capacity, your identity, and somewhere in the chaos of snack time and sleep regressions, your confidence can quietly slip out the back door.
In this raw and reflective conversation with the founders of Moms Feelin’ Themselves (yes, that’s the name and yes, it’s perfect), we unpack what it really looks like to feel confident again after becoming a mom. Spoiler: It’s not about "bouncing back." It’s about building forward.
When Confidence Left the Chat
For Elizabeth, confidence didn’t wait for birth. It left during pregnancy. “I was convinced that if I worked hard enough and made the right choices, everything would work out perfectly,” she shared. “Then I got pregnant and realized how much was out of my control. My fantasy of control was exactly that… a fantasy.”
Sarah, co-founder and mom of three, reflected on her own journey. “There wasn’t a single moment. It’s the day-to-day. Every kid, every season, brings something new that makes me feel like I don’t know what I’m doing. It’s humbling, constantly.”
And listen, this isn’t about moms being ungrateful or dramatic. It’s about reclaiming a truth: that confidence isn’t about knowing exactly what to do. It’s about remembering you’ve survived every moment so far, and trusting you’ll figure out the next one, too.
Confidence as Capability
Confidence doesn’t always look like loud declarations. Sometimes, it’s as quiet as “I’ve got this.” And after kids, that feeling can feel miles away.
“I realized how much my sense of self was tied to capability,” Elizabeth said. “When you become a mom, you lose that—suddenly, you don’t know what the hell you’re doing.” MFT was born from that space. “Creating this business helped me feel capable again. It reminded me I still knew how to do something, even when motherhood felt like a constant question mark.”
For Sarah, confidence came through acceptance. “It’s always evolving. There are days I feel strong and centered. Other days, it’s chaos. But I’ve stopped expecting it to feel ‘balanced.’ Instead, I trust that I can navigate it.”
When You Feel Like You’re Failing
Let’s be real: Motherhood can feel like a confidence demolition derby. Overstimulated. Under-supported. And perpetually wondering if you’re doing it all wrong.
One moment from the convo hit hard: “I lost my cool this morning. I yelled. I hated how I handled it.” That moment of not showing up as the parent you want to be can feel devastating. But as Elizabeth shared, “That’s where repair comes in. We can always start fresh. And that moment? That’s what kids really learn from.”
It’s not about being perfect. It’s about coming back. Again and again. Especially when you feel like you’ve messed it all up.
Finding Yourself in Your Body Again
Motherhood often alienates you from your body. Pregnancy, birth, hormones, identity shifts. Suddenly your body doesn’t feel like yours. That’s why movement (dancing, sweating, shaking) is so central to MFT’s work.
“Dance lets you turn off your brain and come back to your body,” they said. “It’s not about looking good. It’s about feeling alive.”
Whether it’s twerking to Run the Jewels or crying in the car with Beyoncé on blast, reclaiming your identity often starts with reconnecting to your physical self. Not for anyone else... for you.
You’re Not Just a Mom
You’re still you. The woman before kids. The woman with dreams and quirks and edges. That version of you isn’t gone. She’s just buried under mental load and sippy cups.
Motherhood doesn’t have to erase your identity. It can be a portal to a fuller version of yourself, if you give yourself permission to take up space again.
Confidence isn’t about “getting back” to who you were. It’s about becoming more of who you are now.
So to the mom reading this...
Turn up your music (Petey Pablo preferred). Move your body. Ask for help. Apologize when you mess up. Show up as yourself, even if she’s tired and messy and still figuring it out.
You don’t need to prove your worth. You already have it.
You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to keep showing up.
About Moms Feelin’ Themselves
MFT is a movement and a mental health reset, built by and for modern moms. Co-founded by a perinatal psychotherapist, we create experiences that are as joyful as they are healing—because moms don’t just need support, they need a damn good time while getting it.
Co-Founder Sarah Battani Sams (she/her) is a mother of three, community builder and business strategist with deep expertise in sales, operations, and account management. Her obsession with MFT’s operations and design—an uncommon combo—powers the brand’s standout aesthetic and scalable model. Master of the MFT vibe and forever hype-woman, she brings unmatched heart and hustle to everything she does for the group’s moms and partners.
Co-Founder Elizabeth Wellington, MA, LPC, PMH-C (she/her) is a psychoanalytically-trained psychotherapist, passionate about helping women reclaim their voice, vitality, and inner strength—whether in therapy, at home, or in community. At MFT, she creates spaces where moms reconnect with themselves through movement, expression, and shared experience—shifting the culture of care to include themselves. Her work blends clinical depth, embodied healing, and entrepreneurial vision, grounded in the belief that healing is both personal and collective.
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