In many cultures, particularly within the Latinx community, conversations about trauma, consent, and sexual wellness are often met with discomfort or silence. But what happens when these unspoken rules hinder our ability to heal and embrace emotional well-being?
We recently spoke with Chantall Hernandez, LMFT (she/her) about how generational trauma, cultural stigmas, and mental health intersect—and why it’s time to start talking.
Generational Trauma and Mental Health: Breaking the Cycle
Hernandez’s practice, Generational Mental Wellness Therapy, is rooted in understanding how past generations shaped our current beliefs. "Many of us grew up hearing ‘don’t cry’ or ‘don’t talk back’—reinforcing the idea that emotions are a weakness," she explains. "That mindset can make it incredibly difficult for individuals to seek help for trauma, abuse, or even everyday mental health struggles."
Sexual Wellness, Consent, and Stigma
Hernandez is also working toward sex therapy certification, recognizing the importance of discussing sexual health in a community where such topics are often taboo. "Many Latinx individuals struggle to talk about sex, consent, or intimacy because it’s so tied to religious and cultural expectations," she says. "The result? A lack of education that can lead to unhealthy relationships and confusion around boundaries."
A key part of her work involves educating clients on the importance of consent—something that should start in childhood. "Teaching kids about bodily autonomy, even in small ways like asking if they want a hug, lays the foundation for understanding boundaries later in life."
Healing from Trauma: Where Do We Start?
For those struggling with the effects of trauma—whether related to childhood experiences, abuse, or unspoken cultural pressures—Hernandez emphasizes the importance of finding emotionally safe spaces. "It’s critical to identify someone who can validate your experience without judgment," she advises.
This could be a therapist, a trusted friend, or even online communities focused on mental health. She also stresses the importance of reconnecting with your body, a practice often explored through somatic therapy. "Trauma is stored in the body, and healing involves learning to feel safe in your own skin again."
Sex Therapy as a Tool for Reconnection
One of the most overlooked aspects of trauma recovery is sexual wellness. "Sex therapy isn’t just about fixing intimacy issues," Hernandez explains. "It’s about reconnecting with yourself—understanding what feels good, what doesn’t, and allowing yourself the space to heal without shame."
She encourages people to start small: "Instead of jumping straight into intimacy, focus on touch, comfort, and mindfulness. Engage your senses—notice how warmth, scent, or music affects your mood. Healing is a process, and it should never be forced."
The Road Ahead: Shifting the Narrative
So how do we change the conversation? According to Hernandez, it starts with normalizing these discussions. "Perpetrators thrive in secrecy. The more we talk about these issues—whether it’s trauma, consent, or sexual health—the more power we take back."
If you’re struggling, know that you’re not alone.
Healing takes time, and finding the right support system is key. Seeking therapy, engaging with community discussions, and even using tools like our Feelings Wheel / Rueda de Sentimientos can help put words to emotions that have long been unspoken.
About Chantall Hernandez, LMFT (she/her)
Chantall is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist from Los Angeles, CA who is working towards her Sex Therapist Certification. She has a clinical practice specializing in working with couples and individuals (teens and adults) needing to work through relational and sexual health challenges. Chantall is passionate about challenging societal taboos related to mental and sexual health, especially within the Latinx Community.
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