You know that moment when you’re halfway through life’s road trip and suddenly the GPS goes blank? Yeah. That.
In our latest episode of If You Have Feelings, we talk about how it's not about taking the wrong exit or missing a turn.
Wait… What Am I Even Doing?
It’s the kind of lost that happens when you thought you knew where life was headed... until you didn’t. One day you’re cruising along, and the next you’re standing in your kitchen thinking, “Wait… what am I even doing?”
It can happen after a breakup, a career change, a big move, or a life transition you didn’t see coming. Or it can creep in so quietly you don’t even notice until you’re knee-deep in the fog, looking around for the person you used to be and realizing… they’re gone. And the new you? Yeah, she’s not here yet either.
Cue The Panic
The world loves to shove certainty down our throats... know your why, set your goals, stick to the plan. But when you’re in the middle of a full-on identity free-fall, that advice feels about as helpful as telling a drowning person to “just swim.”
Here’s the truth: feeling lost doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’re human. You’re in the messy middle, the in-between space where things are uncomfortably unclear but also quietly shifting.
Can You Just Let Yourself Be Here?
So, instead of fighting it or shaming yourself for it, what if you just… let yourself be here?
Here’s what helps when the map disappears:
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Toss the timeline. You’re not “behind.” You’re exactly where you are.
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Name your now. Even if all you can name is “I have no idea what’s next.”
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Get curious. Discomfort is usually a sign something’s growing, even if it feels like chaos.
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Phone a friend. Being lost is less scary when someone’s walking beside you.
This Season Won’t Last Forever
You’re crossing a bridge. Maybe it’s shaky, maybe it’s breathtaking, maybe it’s both. You don’t have to rush to the other side. Just keep walking.
About Arianna "Ari" Smith
Arianna (she/her) is an IFS Certified Therapist, intuitive copywriter, and queer, witchy soul who dances daily between the clinical and the creative. She helps heart-centered individuals heal from trauma and reconnect with their intuition through a spacious, integrative approach that weaves together Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, and intuitive tools like tarot, human design, and astrology.
As a writer, Arianna blends clinical insight with consent-based marketing strategy to help therapists grow their business through clear, authentic copy and intentional email marketing. As a seasoned tarot reader, she holds space for reflection, spiritual exploration, and grounded clarity through life’s messy moments.
Based in Denver, CO, she’s often found roaming local bookstores or gently insisting to her partner that yes, there’s always room for one more plant.
Follow @writewitharianna on Instagram or learn more at https://www.ariannasmith.com/tarot-readings.
